Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Space is one of the biggest focuses for me with all of my relationships. Space is more than not talking to someone for a certain period of time. For me, space is about being your own person in a relationship. This can be tricky to master depending on your situation. But the good news is that everyone doesn’t operate the same way I do. I know that I’m at my best with some space in all my relationships. Now, this doesn’t mean that I’m some lone wolf who is anti-social to everyone. All this means is that I need time for myself, to work on myself, to improve myself, to sort out my own thoughts and feelings, and time to be alone to fully digest what’s going on in my life. Space isn’t about playing hard to get or anything. It’s simply an operating system for people who have individual goals in mind. Whether those goals are professional, personal, spiritual, and so on, time alone gives us a better environment to ponder, relax, and reassess everything that’s going on around us. The world can be a fast-moving place. So fast, it’s difficult to realize how fast it’s going. And this can certainly be true when in a relationship. Therefore, space is so important. It allows me to step away from life so I can fully assess what’s going on. It helps me think about what I want, what I don’t want, and where I want to go.
Space may not be for everyone. Some couples can be very attached to one another. And if that works for them, then who am I to change that? However, I know space is a big part of my relationships. It’s also important to note, when I say space, I don’t mean days apart from one another. Space can literally be 20 minutes of alone time for yourself to think about or mediate on your life. Space is not some “trial breakup”. It’s time away from someone for you to be able to follow your own personal needs and passions. Often, space is concentrating on work. Or it can be going to the gym. Whatever it is, make sure it’s something that resonates with you and that you enjoy doing alone or with other people. Space also applies to more than just couples. Even friends need space from each other. Have you ever had a friend that you love in small doses, but if you were to be around each other constantly over a few days, you’d start to lose your mind? This is a good example of how space can help. It keeps the relationships interesting by limiting the time you have to see each other. It’s up to you to determine what that mix is.
Space is important in any relationship. It helps me with my own personal path through life, and also with my relationships. I get to follow my passions and do what I like to do, and also spend quality time with people who I care about. It’s a perfectly healthy thing to have in relationships. Now, relationships obviously need attention, so it’s up to you to find the right mix of space and attention. Whatever it is, never give up on doing the things you love. Doing these things for yourself is a way of space too. Give yourself time for yourself. So, you can work on yourself and do things to improve yourself or things that make just you happy. This is not a trial breakup. This is a way for you to be your own person in your relationship. Try to incorporate some space in your relationships and see how you like it.
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