Building and maintaining healthy relationships with my friends and peers is a topic that is very close to my heart. I enjoy friendship as much as the next person, so I wanted to share one of the best tips I’ve learned that has helped me build and maintain healthy relationships. Giving an unexpected gift at an unexpected time is a trick that I learned from a movie growing up called, Finding Forrester. The wise character in the movie preaches that this trick alone is the key to winning over a woman’s heart. I have found this to be true. I have also found this to be true to other relationships like friendships, co-workers, and other acquaintances. Let’s breakdown what this saying really means.
I want to start with the “unexpected time” part. This aspect of the quote is perhaps more powerful than the actual gift itself. Anyone can give a gift on a holiday or a birthday, but no one expects a gift on a random weekend or day of the week. That’s what makes this trick so powerful. It shows that you are thinking of the person you are gifting. And that you took time to spend your money or time towards something that you thought they’d like.
The second part of the quote is an “unexpected gift”. This is easier than you think. It doesn’t have to be a grand gift whatsoever. But keep an ear open to find out what the person you are gifting really would like. These hints don’t happen often, but every now and then someone will say I wish I had this or I wish I had that. And if the price is reasonable, go ahead and get that gift for someone.
An unexpected gift at an unexpected time is a beautiful way to tell someone that you were thinking about them and you cherish your relationship with that person. Now, it’s important to understand that you should not ask or want anything in return. If you are doing this in hopes to get something back, then you are doing it for the wrong reasons. The point of this act is to be unselfish and to show someone you care about them. It’s a form of a random act of kindness. So if you are looking for admiration or certain behavior or a gift itself in return, you have to re-evaluate why you are giving a gift. Is it because you care about someone, or is it because you want something from them?
I try to do this for my girlfriend a couple times a year and my special friends once or twice a year. I don’t spend much money, but the act alone is enough for people to be appreciative of your relationship.
An unexpected gift at an unexpected time can be the key to a healthy relationship. Some may even say it’s the key to winning over a woman’s heart. But it can also be applied to so much more. We all show those closest to us how much they mean to us over the holidays, but very few show that type of gratitude at a random time. And that’s what makes this tip so powerful. Say thanks for being you with a gift at a random time. Their reactions is the best part and will put a smile on anyone’s face. Let’s get giving!